Category Archives: Relationships

(Un)Conditional Love: Departures

It’s been a while since I blogged. For some reason I didn’t feel passionate about any topic. An exchange with a friend reminded me how much I care about the vagaries of parenthood. So here it goes… ————————————————————————————– There was … Continue reading

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An Affair in Three Voices: The Husband (Part 1)

A true story of an affair, as you’ll read, it’s told by the husband … Of course I changed all identifying data … The next two blogs will tell the story from the perspective of the betrayed wife and her … Continue reading

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  It’s really bad to hear that your husband had an affair. It’s even worse to hear that it was a full-blown affair with vacations, love letters, gifts etc. To really understand the enormity of the pain, betrayal, disbelief and … Continue reading

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Falling in Love # 3/ old and in love

 I first met Elsie when she volunteered for the same organization I did – a sweet elderly lady with white curly hair and sensible shoes.  She was about 80 years old, and always had a smile on her face. She loved to … Continue reading

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Taking Your Husband’s Last Name

I want to start with a confession. Being a product of this society; being of a certain upbringing and weakness of character – periodically, I succumb to the very conventions and behaviors I criticize. So with this disclaimer, let me … Continue reading

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Aids/Falling in Love#2

I will call her Joy.  She came to therapy to resolve some issues with her elderly mother – an attractive, stylish woman, in her mid-thirties, and happily married. You know, when you start talking, you never know where the conversation … Continue reading

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Being in Love #1

This friend is married. She was “in love” with her husband when they met. They had three boys, a nice little home and a group of friends. She was a homemaker and he was a physician. When the children started … Continue reading

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“He’s just not that into you…”

I really did not like the movie. It was not even funny, and was way too predictable. Nevertheless, the message was sooo true; a message that I deal with almost weekly with clients, friends, and even (many years ago, halleluiah) myself. … Continue reading

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We all need a witness to our lives

In the movie “Shall We Dance”, Susan Sarandon explains why we marry. She says that we marry because we need a witness to our lives. I was reflecting on this concept when a friend broke up with her married lover, … Continue reading

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