Author Archives: rachel bar

About rachel bar

Psychotherapist and supervisor.

An Immigrant’s Perspective # 4 – Foreign Films, Subtitles and Iraq

“Where did you meet them?”, I asked my mother after her new friends left our house. “At the club,” she responded, “and do you know that he speaks six languages fluently?” Being multilingual was always a reason for admiration and … Continue reading

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Lessons from Cinderella

The story of Cinderella popularized by the Brothers Grimm (but have originated by Charles Perrault) is traditionally a part of most girls’ childhood tales in most countries and languages. Not having daughters, I have never had the occasion of analyzing  the lessons of the story. Now that I have a … Continue reading

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Lake Balboa: People or Nature

Not being able to walk these days, I miss Lake Balboa. It so happens that I have a proprietary pride in it. IMHO Los Angeles is not truly a city, but there are some wonderful pockets, neighborhoods and parks that … Continue reading

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Nature versus Nurture (The corrected version)

Googling ‘Therapy Nature Nurture”, one gets about 7,150,000(!) results in one-fifth of a second!  This would suggest there’s a lot to say on this. In this debate I am biased toward Nature, and tend to minimize Nurture, thus creating the most significant struggle … Continue reading

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Visiting the Sick

             http://www.metmuseum.org/collections/search-the-collections/90060317 —————————————————————————————————————————– I’m not a religious person and I don’t follow the commandments, but  from time to time I marvel at the wisdom and simplicity inherent in them. Having gone through feet surgery five … Continue reading

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Fine Dining and Falafel

After an enjoyable visit to NYC, I made some mental notes about my dining experience … so, here goes: Let’s start with the supporting actors: First and foremost my husband, who’s a Foodie. Not only does he like to try … Continue reading

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A Tree Worthy of a Blog

                          Blog,  Blog?   Blog! People write blogs for many reasons. But all of us hope that someone would read our posts, otherwise why post them? Some people write daily and some weekly. Some post mostly photographs or stories of all kinds. … Continue reading

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Band of Brothers No More!

Can I start by saying that men and women should be equal? Can I start by saying men and women are not the same? Can I simply start by saying women in combat is a stupid idea? Can I add … Continue reading

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Mozart’s Requiem, Birthday and Memorial

“How do you feel about going to a memorial on your birthday?” asked my husband, some weeks ago. I don’t know about you, but usually there’s some fuss about me on my birthday… Flowers, phone-calls, a family brunch or dinner, and … Continue reading

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(Un)Conditional Love: Departures

It’s been a while since I blogged. For some reason I didn’t feel passionate about any topic. An exchange with a friend reminded me how much I care about the vagaries of parenthood. So here it goes… ————————————————————————————– There was … Continue reading

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